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Fathering Together sees an equitable world where fathers are actively engaged in the lives of their children.
Fathering Together’s mission is to build supportive communities for fathers* enriched by resources and storytelling.
Fathering Together recognizes that fathers come in many forms. Fathers can be biological dads, stepfathers, dads who adopt, uncles, grandfathers, and mentors. They are cisgendered, non-binary, heterosexual and gay. All are welcome to join in our communities and strengthen their roles, duties, and identities.
We invite you to learn together. Life lessons come in formal “classrooms,” lived experiences, and in the relationships we build with one another. We must be open to these experiences to grow and adapt and become stronger. In doing so, we role model this value for our children.
We invite you to share your story. Stories bind us. They create traditions, raise up our values, and remind us of where we’ve been and inspire us for where we want to go. Through our blog, podcast, and digital stories, our stories elevate positive and engaged fathers doing all they can for their children.
By engaging with one another, asking questions, and giving advice, we come to know one another. We share a common value of fatherhood, of wanting what is best for our children. So engage in conversation and help us build a stronger community.
When I became a father for the first time in 2004, many of my good friends were not fathers. I turned to my father, books, and online articles for advice. I struggled to find a community of like-minded fathers for me to engage. Slowly, over the years, friends caught up and had children, and I met new friends through daycares, playgrounds, and community events. Together, we swapped stories of success and failure with our kids. Some were funny, some bewildering, and others really hard to admit.
I started a blog called Dad of Divas (dadofdivas.com) to document some of the journey that I was on with my daughters starting in 2007, prior to my second daughter being born. As I worked and tried to be a great dad, I found over the years that while there were books, there was nothing that was better than finding other dads going through similar experiences with their own kids, and I worked to do this as my daughters grew up.
In 2018 I decided to start a Facebook group to help dads to connect with other dads and to help them to be the best dads that they could be. I asked my friend Brian Anderson to join me in the effort and together we started Dads with Daughters – We are all on a journey of discovery.
Over the course of two years, Brian and I have seen our group grow from 50 friends to over 115,000 members from around the globe, representing over 100 countries, cultures, political views, and religions. There are dads with newborns and grandfathers with daughters who have daughters. And our members share the joys of birthdays and the tragedies of children dying too young. Members are asking for advice, seeking support, and at the heart of it all, they are telling their stories.
Men are sharing the raw moments of life that they rarely do in public spaces. They are reaching out for a community and we have answered their call. But, more can be done, and thus, Fathering Together ( fatheringtogether.org ) was born.
At Fathering Together, we welcome anyone, who identifies as a father, dad, baba, and many other names. In our online community, we invite members to read and share their stories, download resources to help them learn everything from changing diapers to supporting their children as they decide on colleges, universities, and trade schools. We believe there is no one perfect father or fatherhood-style, and so we welcome a multitude of voices to help all of us navigate it together.
We support individuals who identify as fathers to become better parents and people. We accomplish this through community, learning experiences, increased connection and communication with self and others, and access to guidance and resources.
Basically, we want to help fathers be better fathers. We believe that showing emotion, showing that you care, showing that you’ll wear make-up when you are goofing around with your daughter, or teaching your son it is okay to cry if you are in pain, all these things make you a better father and person. They make you a better role model for your children so that they may be stronger better people.
We also recognize that there is no one correct way to be a dad. There are some definite bad ways, and I know I make mistakes a lot, but we can all learn from one another to be the best dads that we can be.
Dr. Christopher Lewis, Co-founder